What To Do When Plans Fail

Updated: Feb 25



There's nothing quite like the suffocating realization that your long, thought-out plan turned out . . . no good.


Cue the bitterness and self-despair.


I'm talking about any grand plan that was supposed to get you out of the sewer and onto the better path. Like getting another degree. Or taking a chance on moving in together. Or making a huge investment in a pipe dream. You name it, when these types of plans fail you walk away feeling completely gutted.


I hear you.


But this article isn't meant to give you practical know-how or even a big warm hug.

It's meant to change your perspective.


So follow along with me below and let's change that perspective of yours!



Recall an experience where a grand plan epically failed.


What was the plan?

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Why do you feel like it failed?

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How do you feel about that?

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Ok, now stop. Just take a second to pause.


Let's come at this from a totally different angle. Answer me this: during any part of that scenario, did you ever stop to say to yourself: "I love you."?


I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say . . . nope.


This is what this article is about: loving yourself. More specifically, how to redirect your focus to love to help you change your perspective of the failed plan. Because the whole point of changing your perspective is to help you learn to extend compassion to yourself. To extend love to yourself. To be easy on yourself when you, your world and your life plans have shit the bed.


So let's continue with our process . . .


Below, I want you to write down or say aloud to yourself all of the painful emotions + thoughts that bother you the most when remembering this failed plan.

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Now, I want you to conjure up the feeling of love.


Do this by thinking of . . .


  • a pet

  • a cherished loved one

  • any warm + cuddly experience that just makes you feel . . .well . . . loved!


Really, any loving experience will do. Pick the memory that speaks most to you. Just ensure that loving feeling floods your brain. Feel that love in your heart. Feel it in your gut. Allow this loving feeling to spread throughout your entire being.


Now . . . I want you to take this feeling of love . . . and I want you to extend it towards yourself. Because in this moment . . . this love you're conjuring . . . it's meant for you. It's meant to uplift you. Especially the part of you that still feels down from this failed plan we're hashing out.


So after finishing this exercise, do you feel any kind of shift in your thinking? Your feelings?

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Right on! So despite everything that happened with this failed plan we keep discussing, what did you learn?

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Having lived through this experience, do you have a better grasp of what you do want vs. what you don't ?

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Ok. Last question: did you learn anything new about yourself?

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See? Despite all of the crapshoot situations we experience, we also gain a couple of nuggets of wisdom, too. And that's what failure is all about. Learning.


Because let's be real here . . . would you have learned or realized any of those answers above if you hadn't experienced that setback?


That answer is probably not. But the main takeaway here is this:


You are smart. You are strong. And you are learning, no matter if you fail.



And if we are able to remember this in our moments of anguish, then we are helping to change our perspective. We are extending love to ourselves. We are embracing compassion for ourselves.


Because love, compassion, and learning are the ultimate lessons behind failing. Shoot, they are the ultimate lessons in life. And by participating in this article, you are embracing these ideas. You are bringing love into your perspective. And as long as we remember to do this for ourselves, then we will always know what to do when our plans f̶a̶i̶l̶ teach:)


All the love,

Meredith


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