Have you ever…
Heard someone share their problems and then . . .slowly but surely . . . started to worry about those same problems too? Even if those problems AREN'T even yours?
Felt weird around someone in pain? Or ever even felt the exact same symptoms as that someone in pain? This could be physical pain, emotional pain, or even existential/spiritual pain. For example: your coworker with a turbulent home life often comes into work depressed and distracted. And whenever you’re around them, you start to feel depressed and distracted too?
Been drawn to help people? Like even when they don't ask for your help?
Felt the desire to save someone from their own problems?
Been around a group of people who think/feel a certain way and just by being around them...and you start to think/feel the same way too? Even if you genuinely don't feel or think that certain thing is true?
Well, if any of this resonates with you, then you may be empathic.
Empathic? What does that even mean?!
It means this: empaths are people or animals who easily absorb the energy of others.
It’s a pretty simple idea. But it's a huge deal because energy is literally everywhere and within everything.
But to be specific, energy is our...
And with all this energy swirling around, it’s easy to absorb this energy if you are empathic. This means empath's have the tendency to…
Make someone else’s problem their problem. Empath's have the ability to easily feel the energy of other people's issues. Even when a problem has nothing to do with an empath, they’ll unknowingly take it on anyways because it feels like their own.
Feel others pain. Empath's have the tendency to experience others’ pain. This means empaths can literally feel other people's mental, physical and/or spiritual pain. It's a very real phenomenon and it can really drain ya' is you don't know how to discern what's yours and what's not.
Want to over-reach their helping hand. Empath's can feel drawn to help, heal or otherwise save friends/family/partners from their own problems. Even if it’s to their own detriment. It’s because an empath will want to ease the pain that they feel so readily themselves. Don't get me wrong, it's always great to help others. But it can be a destructive cycle if you're an empath and you're constantly helping others instead of helping yourself.
To take on someone else's thought patterns. Yes, empaths have the ability to take on someone else’s thoughts. But it’s not just thoughts though. It can be beliefs, ideas, and behaviors too.
So without even realizing it, empaths can easily believe, feel, think or experience someone else's stuff. Someone else's pain. Someone else's problems. And all of this can happen to empath's simply by being around other people.
But does this mean you’re crazy?
Does this mean you're weird?
Does this mean you're different?
Not as much as you'd think.
You see, all of us harbor some level of empathic abilities. It’s just the intensity of it varies from individual to individual.
So let’s recap:
We know what an empath is.
We know their energetic tendencies
But on a day to day basis, what does an empath feel? What do they experience?
Well, Empaths tend to experience…
Anxiety from being in large crowds, hospitals, or even cluttered spaces
Deep emotional experiences when watching a film or reading a story. *This holds true for both positive and negative story lines.
Wide ranges of emotion when listening to someone share a personal story or memory
“Off" feelings when visiting haunted spaces or areas where something traumatic occurred.
Feeling drained and void of energy when around too many people
Over stimulation in life. This includes but is not limited to loud or recurrent noises, false lighting, scratchy clothing, harsh smells, foreign spices &/or the everyday bullshit spun by your fellow mankind.
To be honest, it sounds like a curse to be an empath, huh?
I hear ya’. But it doesn’t have to feel like that. All of this is actually a gift. But in order to perceive it as such, you have to have a very specific tool set.
Let me explain that tool set.
Discernment is the ability to check in with yourself and to assess what is actually yours vs. what is not yours.
Ben feels good about his life. One day, he decided to go home for a visit. While there, he caught up with his brother and proceeded to learn about all the stuff bothering his brother. After the visit, Ben felt down because he knew how difficult his brother's life currently is.
But Ben used the tool of discernment to check in with himself. And he discerned that his "down" feeling wasn't actually even his. It was his brothers.
Team Ben: 1 | Team Depression: 0
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A personal boundary is simply a rule you create for yourself to help you maintain your own physical, mental and spiritual energy.
For example: Sally re-energizes herself by staying at home alone on Sunday evenings. But Bob cajoles her to come out & see a concert with him on her beloved Sunday evening alone. Sally simply says "no" despite Bob's incessant pleading.
Takeaway: Sally maintained her personal boundary by remaining steadfast in saying “no” to her friend Bob.
Energy protection is simply the intent & the mental effort to envision protection around yourself. And there are tons of ways to energetically protect yourself. But for simplicity’s sake, focus on your heart and envision blinding white light all around you. Do this when you find yourself in a draining physical, mental or emotional setting. Because envisioning this light will uplift and protect you no matter where you are or what you're doing. And if you wanna supercharge the protection, ask your angels to help you. Whisper aloud or internally say " Loving Angels, please protect my energy now. Thank you."
There it is folks! Empathic abilities are a gift meant to help us experience & easily connect with the world around us. But to truly use our empathic abilities, we have to know how to discern and protect ourselves. On both a physical and energetic level.
So know that you're not alone in this. Know that you can actually be successful instead of defeated by this. And finally, know that it is within your power to know how to flourish within your own empathic abilities.
All you have to do is
Set up them personal boundaries
And energetically protect yourself
Because you are loved and you are totally worth it. May these tools further illuminate your path and your understanding mah’ dear friend:)
All the love,